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Inspirational, Life Coaching

Gracefully Human: How to Stay Grounded When Life Gets Tough

In a world that often glorifies the grind (getting ahead, getting even, getting more!) the quiet power of grace can feel almost like an old-fashioned relic. But in times of heartbreak, stress, or fear, grace might be the most powerful tool you have.

Grace doesn’t mean pretending everything’s fine or ignoring the important things. It’s not weakness. It’s strength that doesn’t need to shout. It’s a power move.

So What Is Grace?
Grace is the quiet choice to stay kind when life is anything but. It’s patience when things feel unfair, and calm when your instincts want to yell or slam doors. It’s how you hold onto your humanity (and peace of mind) even when you’re angry or hurting.  Grace is a combination of restraint, kindness, self-awareness, dignity, compassion and emotional maturity.  It’s like taking the high road when everyone around you is freaking out and showing their ‘less than perfect’ selves. It’s not always easy, but it’s something we all have within us.

Life, as we know too well, doesn’t move in a straight line. It winds through breathtaking highs and soul-wrenching lows. One minute you’re celebrating a success you worked hard for, the next you’re facing a crushing disappointment you never saw coming. People lift us up, and people let us down. Doors open, and others slam shut without warning.

So how do we move through all the hard things without becoming hard, cynical, or numb? We do it with grace. We choose peace over drama.

Getting Through Rough Times
Grace isn’t putting on a fake smile or pretending everything’s fine when it isn’t. It’s not the absence of anger or sadness or boundaries. Grace is choosing not to meet cruelty with cruelty. Grace is pausing, even when you want to snap back. It’s seeing the humanity in someone who’s hurt you. This doesn’t excuse their actions, but it lets you free yourself from being pulled into the same, miserable spiral.

A lot of people mistakenly think that the goal of life is getting everything: getting noticed, getting ahead, getting even, getting what’s “owed” to them. But giving … now that’s a revolutionary thing!  Why not give someone  the benefit of the doubt, or a hand up when you could look the other way. Give a smile in the checkout line, even when your own mind is busy with ten different worries. Give a compliment especially to someone who may not get them often. Give space to someone who’s grieving, stumbling, or just trying to find their way. That’s a power move. That’s classy.

The Golden Rule Still Matters
“Do unto others” is something we heard growing up at home, school or at church  – and it still holds up. The real test is how you live this out when things get messy, when people disappoint you, when you’re exhausted. Grace is saying “I don’t like when people do this, so I won’t do it either”.

Grace helps you keep showing up as the person you want to be, no matter what life throws your way.

If You’re Struggling to Find Grace Right Now…
If you’re weighed down by anger, exhaustion, betrayal, sadness, or simply feeling disconnected it sounds like it’s a good time to lighten the load and get back on track.

A life coaching session can help you untangle the weight you’re carrying and begin to reconnect with the part of you that’s still hopeful, strong, positive  – and still deeply human! You can learn quick, effective tools that take you from chaos to calm, so you can weather life’s storms that much better.
Life Coaching, Resources

Life Coaching vs. Therapy: What’s the Difference?

At Free You Hypnotherapy and Life Coaching, we believe in empowering people to heal, grow, and thrive—whether that means overcoming emotional blocks or stepping into your full potential. One of the most common questions I hear from clients is: What’s the difference between therapy and life coaching? Both are powerful tools for personal development that move you forward, but they serve different purposes and are suited for different stages of your journey.

Understanding the distinction can help you choose the right support for where you are—and where you want to go.

🧠 Therapy: Healing the Past
Therapy is ideal for those needing to process pain, trauma, or persistent mental health challenges. Additionally, it focuses on emotional healing and helps you understand how life experiences may be influencing your present.

Therapy:

  • Focuses on healing from the past
  • Addresses mental health conditions such as anxiety, depression, trauma, or grief
  • Delivered by licensed mental health professionals
  • Often covered by insurance

Therapy is essential if you’re experiencing emotional distress, persistent sadness, or symptoms that interfere with daily life. Ultimately, therapy is mostly about understanding, healing, and finding stability.

🌱 Life Coaching: Creating Your Future
Life coaching is about looking forward—not backward. It’s for people who are more mentally stable but feel stuck, unmotivated, or unsure of their direction. Further, coaching helps you clarify what you want, identify what’s holding you back, and take meaningful action to move forward.

Life Coaching:

  • Focuses on future goals, clarity, and momentum
  • Provides motivation, structure, and accountability
  • Best for individuals who need help navigating life transitions, habits, or decisions
  • Coaching is not a substitute for therapy

At Free You, coaching sessions are designed to support your growth mindset, helping you tap into your inner wisdom, set intentional goals, and take aligned steps toward your best life.

🤝 Where They Overlap

While therapy and coaching are different, they both offer:

  • A non-judgmental, supportive space
  • Deep, active listening
  • Personalized tools for mindset shifts and behaviour change
  • Greater self-awareness and intentional living

Both aim to help you live a more fulfilling life—but coaching does not treat mental illness. Please note that it is very important to choose what matches your needs.

🧩 Which One’s Right for You?

  • Choose therapy if you’re healing from emotional wounds, dealing with trauma, or struggling with your mental health.
  • Choose life coaching if you’re ready to move forward, set goals, and make intentional changes in your personal or professional life.

Sometimes, the most powerful approach is a blend of both—using therapy to heal and coaching to grow.

Ready to Take the Next Step?

At Free You Hypnotherapy and Life Coaching, we offer integrative support tailored to your journey. Whether you’re navigating a difficult time in your life, seeking clarity, or feeling ready for a fresh start, we’re here to help you reconnect with your power and purpose.

Book a free discovery call with Brenda today to find out whether life coaching is right for you!
Hypnotherapy, Information, Resources

What is Hypnotherapy?

Hypnotherapy is a natural process and an effective way to create positive change in your life. At its core, hypnotherapy helps your human potential evolve naturally. It enables you to find your focus and maintain it, even when life becomes chaotic around you.

Through hypnotherapy, you develop internal strength and consistency—a practice known as autogenics. The process clears away obstacles that limit your personal growth and transformation into your best self. It also removes the barriers that generate negative emotions and that critical inner voice—the one constantly telling you that you’re not enough. Not strong enough, smart enough, slim enough, beautiful enough, accomplished enough, or wealthy enough.

These mental obstacles prevent you from making decisions and moving forward. They block you from living curiously and kindly, with meaning and purpose. Hypnotherapy helps you respond to life intuitively, freeing you from societal expectations and childhood conditioning.

Our early memories and experiences significantly shape our life directions and decisions. Research suggests that 85-90% of our actions stem from past conditioning and memories, most of which formed between conception and age 7. These experiences play a crucial role in determining who we become.

We carry different types of memories: positive conscious memories like playing as a child and coming home to a favorite meal surrounded by love, and unconscious memories that trigger challenging reactions and behaviors that don’t serve our best interests.

Hypnotherapy encompasses various styles, techniques, and applications. Could you use help with:

  • Relieving stress and anxiety
  • Developing hope for your future
  • Eliminating fears, phobias, and negative thoughts that cause procrastination
  • Releasing old negative habits or behaviors
  • Managing weight
  • Quitting smoking
  • Feeling successful and loving your life

Book your appointment today and begin your transformation journey.
Hypnotherapy, Resources

Sleep & Hypnotherapy

Can hypnotherapy help with sleep disorders? If you’ve struggled with achieving deep, restful and rejuvenating sleep, you’re likely wondering whether Hypnotherapy could be the answer.

I recommend taking a look at this helpful article featured on Marissa Peer’s website. Not only does it address the potential for Hypnotherapy to be used as a tool to help you find more restful and consistent sleep, it also discusses several other strategies and tools you can use to help you achieve the rest you need. To read the full article, click the following link.